Talking about home care with your elderly family member might not feel like an easy conversation and that’s for good reason. The very idea can bring up strong emotions for your senior that she needs time and compassion to work through.
Keep Your Senior Involved in the Decision
If you’re starting out your talk about elder care with a lot of information and with your plans, that might just backfire on you. You do definitely need to do some research, but it might not be the best idea to do too much on your own. When you make this a group effort with you and your senior both participating, it’s less likely that she’ll feel this is a decision you’re forcing onto her.
Start out with Lighter Needs
As with what you’ve learned about elder care, you might not want to lean on the parts of the service that might feel scariest to your senior. Hearing that someone can help her to get dressed might feel intimidating for her, especially right out of the gate. What can work a lot better is to lead with general services that elder care can offer your senior. Things like meal preparation are a lot less likely to feel invasive.
Move at Your Senior’s Pace, if Possible
Let your elderly family member know that she’s able to control the pace a bit. Her life may be changing at a rapid-fire pace in other ways, such as with her health, but this is something she may have a little more say in. If she feels comfortable with the entry-level assistance that she gets from home care providers, she may feel more comfortable allowing more help.
Remember to Compromise
You might feel at times as if you’re making progress and then your senior backtracks a bit. That just means that she’s trying to adjust and you’re going to need to leave some room to compromise a bit. If you’re letting her have a little more control and a little more participation, those times when you seem to lose ground may wind up fewer and farther between.
Elder care can do so much to help your senior and can help you to do even more as a family caregiver. But if your elderly family member isn’t excited about the same things that you are, you’re more likely to feel resistance from her. Trying some of these ideas can help quite a bit.